The other person is the common denominator in every situation in their life, which makes them responsible for their part.It’s also critical to recognise the difference between influence and responsibility because having little or no boundaries influences someone with the disposition to take advantage or abuse to do just that, but you’re not responsible for their actions.Do you like to meet people online or over the phone to talk about adult topics? It’s free, and the best way to reach interested individuals in the local India community. In the India Phone/Cam category you can find ads posted by India locals offering sex chats, phone sex and webcam sex. If you are in need of some equipment for a video meeting, find the items you need in the India and India Laptops & Notebooks categories. If it sounds disproportionate to what you’re pinning it to, it’s because it is. If you’ve got something to do with whatever you’re ‘blaming’ yourself for, address it and move on.If when you ‘blame’ yourself for something and there’s someone else in there with their behaviour, I’m sorry but you can’t blame yourself. If the situation has moved beyond the point of having anything that you can truly do to resolve it, address the issue within you and resolve to live your lessons now and in future relationships. The flipside – blaming others and avoiding responsibility and accountability is destructive to your relationship with them. Anything you truly do believe you’re doing that doesn’t benefit you and is a factor in ‘your part’ – what can you DO to improve it? I’ve learned to experience conflict and discovered that the sky doesn’t fall down and criticism or perceived criticism doesn’t derail me.It’s more important that I like me than I try to impress ‘everyone’.I also don’t bust my proverbial balls about disappointments nor do I blame everyone else.
Invariably they completely miss the point and the bigger picture.You’re the common denominator in every situation in your life.That doesn’t make you responsible for everything that goes down – it makes you responsible for your part.What you’re responsible for is not having boundaries. You might not like what you see but at least it’s the truth – one with more logic. If someone’s upset tomorrow and I know that the reason for them being upset is because I called them an assclown, I can apologise for my actions and resolve to be more thoughtful in what I say when I experience conflict.A respectful person wouldn’t bust them in the first place. Get off the blaming horse and look at this situation through the other person’s eyes and be 100% honest with yourself. While it’s not the easy thing to hear, it’s actually the lazy option to say “Such and such happened – oh it’s my fault” There’s a whole lot of stuff missing in between that. If you’re going to make yourself accountable for something, ensure that it can be pinned to you with a logical reason that if you said it out loud to another human being, they wouldn’t wonder if you’d been at the crack pipe. If I have nothing to do with it, while I can attempt to help improve their mood, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions that due to me living and breathing and not being ‘good enough’ that I must have something to do with it.