skimming other dating sites´ picture galleries and even registering there just to find out. Much heartbreak that followed after the scam could have been prevented if...
- victims cry while reading through the healing process topic because they recognize themselves by 90% - they also cry during their first post - that´s why it is so hard squeezing info and facts out off them, NOT because they are indifferent. - victims "naturally" carry on with online dating and get to know and meet new people besides, which may help them out a bit easier, or not.
This mindset makes much more sense to me now after having read Hula-Girl´s long scam diary.
Her motivation for writing all down in a journal is, I think, because the time spent with chatting with him must be filled.
It´s many swear words actually but it´s "authentic". And there are many flashbacks when suddenly everything comes back again after months, unfortunately.
She writes a lot about the real men she met for dinner or for going out over friendscout and on the same level still talks about her scammer, as if he had been real and someone to meet. The sentences get very short and staccato when she writes in an angry state.
Disclaimer regarding pictures posted on the board: please understand that you are NOT looking at the pictures of people who are actually scamming you.
The people portrayed on these photos are innocent men and women, NOT involved in scamming in any way and have nothing to do with scammers.
It is full with reflections and anger and sadness and hope and also shows that despite many flashbacks, life goes on and the scam ultimately ends but it takes long and it is hard work Her journal proves a few thoughts that I have always been having, both good and bad and very "foreseeable", assuming I can take her story as a "typcial" military scam that happens thousands of times every day: - victims look for the man in the pictures like mad. When they block them on Skype, they still read their mails or answer the "hotel manager".Almost daily journal entries and the RPO is mentioned almost on every page.For me, a proof of the routine how well the scammer and his pals have exectued the scam Also how good he is after switching the storyline from military scam (busted) to poor black boy with money needs who wishes to marry into a Western country.Many have reported this in Support Advice, that they are missing the chat time and the (fake) attention.The RPO search and dreams about RPO are a recurring subject even after more than half a year.