Even though the bond and love that kept them together over the years still exists, the younger still has physical and emotional needs that can no longer be met by the older spouse.What are the ethics in the younger one having a "friend with benefits" to address those needs, if it's done discreetly without causing embarrassment and humiliation to the older spouse?He's in Italy now, and he asked me what I would like for a souvenir. I asked him to get a bag and put in it menus, train tickets and bar napkins, and to jot down at night on hotel stationery what he did, saw, how the weather was.I asked him to mention anything different or unusual and collect coasters, valet stubs, anything that would help him share his experiences with me when he gets back.Things were looking up, and Johnston even found love in the form of fellow contestant Koli Palu.
As the years go on, those "memory joggers" will let you both relive the adventures he's having now, and they will become increasingly precious. DEAR ABBY: I am sure this issue affects many people, but I have not seen it addressed in your column.Oftentimes married partners are separated by many years in age.Eventually the older of them has to enter a long-term care facility due to a mental/physical defect.His issue is that this area has "too many people and is too fast-paced" for him. Once you answer that question, you will know what to do.DEAR ABBY: My son has his master's degree in international relations, so he travels to places I will never see.