As INFPs, we live in an internal dream world of our ideals where everything exists the way we think it should be.
When reality forces us to wake up, it feels a little like dying.
INFPs in denial know their desired Reward such as “I want to write books for a living” but can’t answer questions about the Rules such as “do you know how much an average Times bestselling author makes?
” They don’t want to know the answer because the answer brings them closer to waking up.
(This phenomenon would also be common between INFJ and ENFP or INFP and ENFJ).
Conversely, INFJs may be jealous of the intellectual dexterity and creativity that is displayed by the Ne function of the INFP while their Ni continues to go hidden.The denial stage can only exist if the INFP lives in a protected environment such as living at home or at college on their parent’s income.I don’t know any INFPs who work two jobs to pay to college part time that are still in the denial phase.Since the journey toward wholeness for introverts is one of bringing what is inside out, there can be buried envy when one’s partner displays those parts which the other has a hard time showing.Indeed, when this pairing gets together initially it may be because of the ego’s desire to see its inner-self becoming actualized – something that the partner is able to do as a result of the reversed functional direction.