Not dating within the first year is mentioned nowhere in the big book. Keep in mind that most recovering alcoholics are pretty messed up emotionally in early recovery, so whoever you are dating is getting a real an of worms. As a matter of common sense, I would counsel most any alcoholic to not pursue romatic relationships for at least year.
I tend to think you're also shortchanging yourself and not giving yourself time to heal. Likewise, I would strongly advise most any normie to not take up with someone who is less than a few years sober.
AA does not suggest or recommend that any member place any aspect of their lives on hold for any predetermined amount of time or for any reason.
It's a lie that comes from people that feel an overwhelming need to say something but haven't read the book or followed the program. The actual 'caution' that this idea evolved from, came from some early 'rehabs' where it was SUGGESTED: "No 'MAJOR CHANGES' in ones first year of sobriety unless something was affecting that person's sobriety." ie No job changes, unless the job was making it really hard to stay sober. Old Timer AA's of the that era heard this and saw the common sense in the phrase and started using it: "No 'MAJOR CHANGES' in the first year of sobriety." Somehow most of that has been lost to NO DATING or NO RELATIONSHIPS the first year.
If the idea of a year without dating causes anxiety or seems impossible..you might have other issues.
I think the idea of not pursuing relationships or new careers or moving to a new state or even going back to school in the first year of recovery is a good one. But that is all the more reason to keep everything else as stable as you can. I've been in and out of the program for quite a while.
Looking back, I was sort of following that rule, but I should have done it much sooner.
I think it depends on the person and how you are doing in your recovery.
Those sayings and "rules" come from rehabs and detox centers and whatever else, but not from AA.
I don't think that there's anything magic about 365 days. It would be too stressful for me, and it would be unfair to my date if I was unable to manage my emotions/stress of early sobriety and took it out on them.
Maybe one person is ready to start dating after 4 months, and another in 5 years, it all depends on the person. Maybe you want to date because you are lonely and feel dating may help you, and maybe even help you stay sober. I just think it is unfair to use an "innocent bystander" (a date) to deal with my feelings of loneliness and stress.
No moving from one resident to another, unless the current living arrangements were putting sobriety into jeoparady. I M H O the reality is that the first year IS EXTREMELY HARD on most of those serious about recovery, and diverting one's concentration, or diluting one's concentration with all the potholes of dating, and/or a new relationship divert us from working on ourselves.
Now you sound like the majority of those I have worked with, still 'wanting to rebel in some way' lol and will end up doing what you want to do, lol Think about it some more please.