” “Like in their twenties.” “Oh…well, I’m only 26,” I replied. Most of them haven’t been married before.” “I figured that. I don’t really mind dating anyone at all–even if they haven’t been married before.” “I’m sure that you don’t mind, but do you really think that a young man who hasn’t been married before will really want to date a woman who has been married has had children? I even told the Bishop that I felt like “tainted meat.” But I had been assured that everything was fine. It took me a while to really believe this, then there at Mc Donald’s it all came crashing back down. One Sunday, I had to begin teaching the children My social life with church friends also changed. Some people might insensitive things, but it isn’t on purpose. They listened and laughed when I told them about crazy guys that I dated.
I knew that she didn’t mean to hurt me, so I just listened to her without saying a word. ” We exchanged more pleasantries, and I could tell that both Brother and Sister Stone While I was single, I was serving as the Primary Chorister*. I was working full-time, so I didn’t go to quilting club. People become uncomfortable when someone gets divorced because it wakes them up to how vulnerable their own marriages are.
“Let me know when he’s in town.” For the most part, these didn’t pan out.
” I started to laugh, “Well, about 180 of that was my ex.” We laughed together and she gave me a “You go, girl.” Another week, at church: “Catania! I honked, but you probably didn’t realize it was me.” “Where was it?
Then she asked, “So…how are well.” “You know—I can tell.” I smiled as she continued. Whatever you’re doing is working.” “I have lost some weight… But, when I was finally officially single, I started going to singles functions. One guy was super nice and had contributed a lot to class. You look like your in your twenties.” “Yeah…” he cut me off.
Everyone accepted me , and I felt grateful that there were so many people who cared about me and were cheering me on. I had survived my first night at a “Singles” event. ” “I’m Catania…nice to meet you.” “Good to meet you, too.” Markus went into the gym, and I went to the parking lot and drove home.(If I , I would have started crying)…She gave me “ideas” like moving to Utah where there were more divorced members of the church, talking to the Bishop who probably knew of a few other divorced members, or waiting out my life as a single woman. I didn’t have time to read for leisure anymore, so I stopped going to book group. Now, I know that some people truly are jerks, but for the most part…they’re not. None of her suggestions involved getting to know some of the young Mormon men – who lived near me but had never before been married- and went to the singles ward. I didn’t want him to sit there and suffer, so I continued, “Not to sound rude or anything, but I found out that Rusty was living a very life, so I asked for a divorce. I was already away from my kids 40 hours a week, so I stopped going to “Ladies Night Out.” We didn’t have dinners with families anymore, and my kids didn’t go on as many play-dates.